Comments on: not living life in darkness…

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 06:25:25 +0000

I'm really tired right now so I wanted to comment before the next blog is released and I really hope what I say makes sense. I have had fun reading everyone's comments and had to chime in. As a married man, who believes that he married the perfect woman I must comment.

Fundamentally it comes down to what you define individually as the perfect partner/person.

By: FAMU

FAMU — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 04:08:00 +0000

Mitzi, I really do think you and evereyone who agreed with you on this article read it one more time. Not once did she say "just take the first man you see, make it work and stop being so picky." It said, don't be so harsh to judge. I am also shocked that you are so mad about this article because you are doing actually what she is suggesting all women do and that is "get to

By: joan

joan — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:53:38 +0000

Re-read her article and I definitely don't think she was saying that women should settle. And I don't think she was even discouraging women from setting standards. She was talking about women with unrealistic expectations and yes, there are women who have them. Just like there are men who have them. Mitzi, you are not one of them but you can't pretend that there aren't women who

By: Caila K

Caila K — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 02:45:18 +0000

PREACH!!!! My sentiments exactly. Michelle was hardly settling-Barack never lacked looks, ambition, drive and obviously swagger (concluding from the story of how they met-he wooed her as an intern!).

So ladies, keep the sunglasses OFF 'cuz "The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for."

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 02:17:04 +0000

Amen sister. I've seen far too many women who settle just 'cause they wanna be married. No ma'am. I've waited this long-I wanna be HAPPY.
" Settling " can kiss my ass.

Maria

By: Joyce The Writer

Joyce The Writer — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 00:56:08 +0000

girl I settled for a minute and thats why I ain't in that relationship anymore…it just ain't worth it…you feel like crap…he feels like crap cause you expect more than he can deliver…just crap crap crap…a smelly old relationship…glad I'm out and I encourage others never to get into one…even though I learned a lot about myself, I feel like I learned the lessons in the

By: rae

rae — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 22:51:17 +0000

amen mitz to your original post and your 2nd response! loves it. and to the anonymous man who said maybe black women "should discard the more superficial criteria that may lead to overlooking a valuable person" i hope many black men (who often want you to look like beyonce' all day, everyday, even when you are making them a ham sandwhich…lol..) can do the same

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 21:18:38 +0000

Maybe I'm missing something because I'm a college educated black man and we're rarely confronted with these kinds of questions. But what I took from the article is not that women should lower their standards but that maybe they should discard the more superficial criteria that may lead to overlooking a valuable person.

I guess it's kinda reiterating the whole

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:53:33 +0000

Michelle Settled? really? Sorry-I agree with mitzi. I will never settle. I like nerdy guys as long as their cute and cool enough to make me laugh and aren't socially inept. I also like badboys (who doesnt) but settling BE DAMNED. Michelle was "realistic?" ??? what the hell is she talking about??! Barack was cute for his day and smart and taller than her damnit! Do you have any idea

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:38:32 +0000

WHAT IS WRONG WITH THAT CHICK??? HAVE YOU LISTENED TO BARACK? HE CAN TALK YOU OUTTA YOUR PANTIES IN 30 SECONDS FLAT. BROTHER HAS GAME!!! IF BIGGIE MADE YOUR SNATCH TINGLE IMAGINE WHAT A MAN WITH A SILVER TONGUE LIKE BARACK COULD DO TO YOU. GET REAL! CORNEY? NERDY? NOT BAM! HE GOT HIGH, PLAYS BALL AT 46! (really…how many 46 years olds you know play ball daily?) AND HANGS A SUIT LIKE A MUG. TELL